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We’ve all been there – the uncomfortable one at the party or family gathering.  Having obesity can make it even more unpleasant.

Whether it’s judgmental looks from across the room or grandma’s comments about the “baby fat” you’ve never lost, weight is a personal subject.

If you’ve been struggling to lose weight, you’re not alone.
According to, 52% of Americans want to lose weight.

While weight loss is an individualized concern, the ways obesity impacts one’s lifestyle are fairly universal. To shed light on this, take a look at some of the ways being obese can impact you and your loved ones.

Higher risks of health complications

In addition to societal effects, obesity can impact your daily life. Throughout the years, obesity has been known to pose higher risks of several health conditions such as sleep apnea, joint pain, diabetes, and cancer.

If you’re feeling pressure in your back and joints by the end of the day, it could be time to finally lose the excess weight. Otherwise, you run the risk of damaging your joints over time.  It may not seem like a big deal while we are young, but as we age…..mobility and independence will be a BIG deal.

In both sexes, the chances of cancer increases with excess pounds. For women, this can include breast, colon, and uterine cancer. For men, the risk of prostate and colon cancer increases. If any of these cancers are prevalent in your family, the odds increase even more.

Getting pregnant becomes more difficult

Obesity also has been linked to fertility complications, which may explain why you and your spouse haven’t been able to conceive yet.

In women, obesity can cause hormonal imbalances, which impacts ovulation. Inversely, being underweight can affect fertility, so falling within the “average” weight for your height and age is greatly important.

In the end, everyone’s different, and obese couples may have very little issues having a baby, but it may be something to look at if you’ve been struggling to conceive.

You deal with social stigmas

We all know that most Americans place a value on being thin. If you believe that you’ll be great at your job once you’re thin, or you’ll finally find the right partner once you’ve lost the weight, you’re not the only one.

You could be on a flight and find the person next to you acting like you’re a burden no matter how courteous you try to be. The young kid at the theme park who tries to fasten your seat belt could look at you like you’ve done something offensive.

Is it fair? No. But the good thing is that you can do something about it without having to feel like you need to take society head-on. It starts with admitting that you’re finally ready, then comes finding the right, healthy diet and exercise routine to follow.

Having obesity impacts your psyche

Every day we see images of happy thin people, which programs us into believing that being thin is the only way we can be happy. Though the tides are changing thanks to some of today’s top plus size models, it’s still important to consider your own mental status.

In addition to overall mental fatigue, those with obesity are about 25% more likely to have depression. With this follows self-confidence and self-image issues that are damaging to one’s mental health.

While it’s possible to be happy and overweight, that doesn’t mean health consequences aren’t down the road.  Talk to your physician about what you can do to lose excess weight and be the healthiest you can be!


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Guess What?!  Everyone Likes Cake!


A lot of my patients play the blame-game.  I don’t mean they blame their weight issues on others –  exactly the opposite!  They blame themselves for things that have nothing to do with them personally.  This guilt-blame type of thinking can really interfere with weight loss.

If you have some weight to lose, whether it be 10 lbs or 100 lbs, have you ever said (or thought) to yourself “if only I were thin, I’d be able to…..”?   Well, I’m here to tell you that many of the things that finish that sentence have nothing to do with how big or small a person is.

Patients will sit in my office confessing their latest nutritional indiscretions (which usually aren’t all that big of a deal) and rarely does the confession end with just the confession.  More often than not it comes with a “if I were thin, I could have walked away”….or…..”if I could eat normally, that wouldn’t have happened.”  But, my favorite is “if I weren’t so fat, I wouldn’t even like cake*.”  What!?!  (Btw – I hate the F-word…..  Fat is something you have, not something you are.)

Wrong! Weight loss has nothing to do with you liking cake!

I hate to be the one to tell you this, but no one “likes cake because they are fat” – we like cake because we are HUMAN and cake tastes awesome!  I know I furrow my brow when I hear these things, because I’m thinking to myself “wow…Iike that stuff, too!”  Sometimes, I joke with my patients and tell them to get over themselves – they aren’t the only people on the planet that like cake!  🙂


I try to take the conversation in another direction – one where my beloved patient can (maybe) understand that certain actions and desires are 100% normal from a human perspective.  It’s not a character flaw that you enjoy foods that taste good to 99.9% of people on the planet.  But, this is sometimes difficult to comprehend.  When we “like” things, it can be a bit of an identifier of who we are.  And since we obviously need to drop some pounds, we obviously should NOT like cake…but we do…so there is obviously something wrong with us!  NO!  It’s perfectly normal to like cake!  Liking cake does not define who a person IS.

When talking about your neighbor, you may say “that Jim – he loves cars.  He’s a total car guy.”  But, would anyone ever say “that Jim – he loves cake.  He’s a total cake guy.”  No.  Because liking cake is a fairly universal thing, while being into cars tells us something of Jim’s personality.  Liking cake tells us nothing.

Imagine someone comes up to introduce themselves to you.  They extend their hand and say, “hello, I’m Jim and I like cake.”  Unless you are at a cake convention – this tells you absolutely zilch about Jim.  And you’d think…um…yeah, me too.  (Okay, so maybe in THAT example, Jim would be forever known as the guy who likes cake….but that’s not the point!)  The point is….  the fact that you like cake has nothing to do with YOU, who you are as an individual, or what anyone will remember about you when writing your eulogy!  (“Let us all gather to remember Jim, he was one cake-eating accountant…..”  Guarantee you won’t hear that!)

What Matters:  Not that you like cake, but your RESPONSE to liking cake!

What may not be beneficial for health is the excessive indulgence that may be taking place between you and your cake.  This is where the focus needs to be.  We are all faced with situations where there will be cake.  Some people can walk right by it, some people can take one piece and be fine, and some people take 5 pieces and only eat the frosting off of each.  (Not that I know first hand that this happens….)  But, then there will be individuals who simply can’t stay out of the cake.  It goes into the fridge – but they will make several trips, eating a bit more each time.  Does this person like cake more than other people?  No! – and that’s where I come in.

Everyone Likes Cake!

The first thing I make very clear to my patients is the fact that they should not feel guilty for natural human desires.  I’ve had patients feel terribly guilty because they even WANTED cake – when they walked away and didn’t have any!!  It’s natural to like and want cake!  What isn’t natural is excessively consuming cake.  Those are two very different things.

What’s Next? It’s time to find what’s really causing the problem.

What to do about a cake obsession is beyond the scope of this post.  However, I do spend a lot of time talking about over-indulging in cake.  Most cake over-indulgers know quite well it has nothing to do with the cake.  Is it anxiety?  Is it an addiction?  Is it binge-eating?  I don’t know what it IS…..but I know what it’s NOT.  It’s NOT the CAKE**!  Cake is a part of life that you SHOULD enjoy, within reason.  And you shouldn’t feel guilty for doing so.  Why?  Because that’s what it’s meant for!  If it wasn’t meant to be enjoyed, it would be broccoli!

Bottom Line…

Be kind do yourself.  Give yourself a break!  Yes, there’s a problem – and we’ll find it!  But, don’t vilify yourself for something entirely natural.

~Dr. Hodges


*please substitute your “thing” for cake – candy, pasta, bread, etc.

**No cake was harmed during the writing of this post.

This, as well as other essential information for weight loss, can be found in my new ebook!  This new ebook prepares you for your next weight loss program – to make it your LAST weight loss program!  Weight loss starts with your MIND….not with your BEHIND.  Get your mindset right and your chances of weight loss success SKYROCKET!


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